I thought you may want to follow the soap opera that I have been a part of ( ie: real life ).
So yesterday my friend and I took her oldest daughter JB to drug rehab. She is 16 1/2 and is starting to tumble out of control. We live in the lovely state of Pa., where the law states that anyone over the age of 14 years old has the right to make his/her own decisions about whether or not they need thearpy, including drug rehab. Also they may fill out their own paper work and put down whom ever they want as a contact person, Boyfriend, friend, whomever. So JB puts down her grandmother, who her mother is not speaking to right now, as a contact person. This means that the thearpist and such can not give her mother any info. My friend spent 8 hours on the phone trying to find out how she could check up on her daughter even though she wasn't on the contact list. Finally, JB's thearpist got her to sign a sheet stating that they could speak to her mother.
You thought that was the end of the drama didn't you?!
The next day the place calls saying that JB is signing herself out of rehab! Good thing this place is ffar away from home because she had no way of getting anywhere. Again, she was conviced to stay awhile. I am just shocked at home much power these kids have or something so serious! We need to write our congressman!!! I also want to know who thought this law was a good idea?
Thursday, January 24
Tuesday, January 22
2 families
Sometimes I feel as though I am running 2 families. When my friend is having a crisis at her house ahe calls me and I run over to help her. Meanwhile, my kids start calling me with the usal he did this, she did that. Why does it always happen when my husband is at work? Tomarrow I have to go to the high school and make sure that my daughter can return to school safely.After I am done there I am going with my friend to take her oldest daughter to rehab. I don't mind helping but sometimes it is a little much, but I hate to leave her feeling helpless.
I don't know what to tell her.
I don't know what to tell her.
Friday, January 18
Helpless
I haven't had crying spells in a long time. Today anything can make me cry. I haven't heard anything from my friend about how her son is doing, he's in the hospital again. This means that they are real busy and don't really know much yet. I'm worried about him. He is just turning 5 on Sunday.
Then there is the thing with my oldest daughter and the rest of the kids don't want me going back to work because they think that I won't have enough time for them. That right there is enough to make anyone sad.
I hate taking my son over to his "dad's" and it is that time again. Come Monday it brings problems with my son.
I am so lonely after the kids go to bed at night. I took for granted all those nights my husband was home and now that he works nights, I am really lonely. I think I may start on the blanket for my new neice or nephew. I don't know when my brother's girlfriend is due but it will keep my mind off the loneliness and teach me how to use my sewing machine better. That is if I have the energy after I finally get everyone to bed. Hope things are going well for the rest of my blogger budies.
Then there is the thing with my oldest daughter and the rest of the kids don't want me going back to work because they think that I won't have enough time for them. That right there is enough to make anyone sad.
I hate taking my son over to his "dad's" and it is that time again. Come Monday it brings problems with my son.
I am so lonely after the kids go to bed at night. I took for granted all those nights my husband was home and now that he works nights, I am really lonely. I think I may start on the blanket for my new neice or nephew. I don't know when my brother's girlfriend is due but it will keep my mind off the loneliness and teach me how to use my sewing machine better. That is if I have the energy after I finally get everyone to bed. Hope things are going well for the rest of my blogger budies.
Wednesday, January 16
Don't really want to blog
I don't really want to blog about today's happenings but I want to blow off steam. So here goes...
GGGGGGGGGGGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
There I feel a little better.
Just a quick question... Why can't parents and teens skip the Jr. High years and everything that goes with it?
GGGGGGGGGGGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
There I feel a little better.
Just a quick question... Why can't parents and teens skip the Jr. High years and everything that goes with it?
Tuesday, January 15
Looking up
Things are finally looking up for me. Yesterday, I got a new job. Thank goodness!
I have been making flyers for SuperMom, my new business, and had plenty of offers to do flyers! Even my kids are helping pass them out!
I can't get my business card program to work right, so I give up. When I get some money I'll go have someone else print them.
On a different note... My medical bills are looking high again this year and this year has only started! The federal gov. has placed a new law that all kids K-12 need 3 more shots that they haven't had before. My son needs to see a specialist for his migrains and I go see the cancer doctor at the end of this month, plus I need to get a work physical next week. GEEZ! I forgot, I need to take my oldest back to the doctor for the rash on her wrist. The stuff they gave is not working. I think I got it all. Oh well, I'm lucky that it's not children's that we are always running to. Good thing my husband works nights now so that I don't have to take time out of my new job. Stay Warm!
I have been making flyers for SuperMom, my new business, and had plenty of offers to do flyers! Even my kids are helping pass them out!
I can't get my business card program to work right, so I give up. When I get some money I'll go have someone else print them.
On a different note... My medical bills are looking high again this year and this year has only started! The federal gov. has placed a new law that all kids K-12 need 3 more shots that they haven't had before. My son needs to see a specialist for his migrains and I go see the cancer doctor at the end of this month, plus I need to get a work physical next week. GEEZ! I forgot, I need to take my oldest back to the doctor for the rash on her wrist. The stuff they gave is not working. I think I got it all. Oh well, I'm lucky that it's not children's that we are always running to. Good thing my husband works nights now so that I don't have to take time out of my new job. Stay Warm!
Saturday, January 12
The fight
My oldest daughter had her first offical fight after school yesterday. The girl wanted to fight her so she told the girl that she wasn't going anywhere and the rest is history. There wasn't an offical winner because our neighbor, who is in high school, broke it up.
I'm not sure how I feel about it, we have always wanted her to stand up for herself and she did. However, I was never in a real fight, either the girls were too afraid of me or I avoided them.
I don't want her to be a weakling but the thought of her fighting doesn't sit well either. I told her not in school unless she is hit first because today the schools call the cops for everything. I don't want her to be labeled as a trouble maker. She has a good head on her, I just hope she keeps it.
I'm not sure how I feel about it, we have always wanted her to stand up for herself and she did. However, I was never in a real fight, either the girls were too afraid of me or I avoided them.
I don't want her to be a weakling but the thought of her fighting doesn't sit well either. I told her not in school unless she is hit first because today the schools call the cops for everything. I don't want her to be labeled as a trouble maker. She has a good head on her, I just hope she keeps it.
Wednesday, January 9
You know your a grown up when....
You know your a grown up when...
You understand your parents point of view
You curse snow days
You sleep in, but not because you were out late
You want your match box cars to be real
I think that you truely know your an adult when...
You shower with someone else not to save time or money, but for the fun of it!
You understand your parents point of view
You curse snow days
You sleep in, but not because you were out late
You want your match box cars to be real
I think that you truely know your an adult when...
You shower with someone else not to save time or money, but for the fun of it!
Tuesday, January 8
Will never understand
There are just some things in life that I will never understand. I try not to judge, but when it just seems far from what most people would do...well...you understand right?
My friend has let her abusive husband back into the house for the 2nd time. The last time he punched two LARGE holes in the wall and probley would have put her back in the hosp. if her mother hadn't of showed up. Their son had gotten really sick recently, so ofcoarse ,he came to the hosp. to stay and now he is back into the house ( the son is ok and out of the hosp. too.). All I can do ,as her friend, is be here when she needs me. I just hate to see her go through the same thing again and again.
The defintion of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result.
My friend has let her abusive husband back into the house for the 2nd time. The last time he punched two LARGE holes in the wall and probley would have put her back in the hosp. if her mother hadn't of showed up. Their son had gotten really sick recently, so ofcoarse ,he came to the hosp. to stay and now he is back into the house ( the son is ok and out of the hosp. too.). All I can do ,as her friend, is be here when she needs me. I just hate to see her go through the same thing again and again.
The defintion of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result.
Sunday, January 6
If Everyone Cared
"If everyone shared and swallowed their pride, we'd see the day nobody died." - Nickelback
I have an abundance of time on my hands since I have not been working, so I have been giving my best friend my time by watching her kids so she could go to work without worry.
My father-in-law mows our neighbors lawn on the same day he mows ours ( our neighbors are elderly). My mom has given her time to our elderly Aunt when she had come home from the hospital. I have seen many people let somone with less iteams go ahead of them in line.
The other day at the Family Dollar an older women did just that and a lady behind both of them started cussing up a storm. By the time both women were in the parking lot a fist fight insued. WTF!
What is wrong with people like that?
I have an abundance of time on my hands since I have not been working, so I have been giving my best friend my time by watching her kids so she could go to work without worry.
My father-in-law mows our neighbors lawn on the same day he mows ours ( our neighbors are elderly). My mom has given her time to our elderly Aunt when she had come home from the hospital. I have seen many people let somone with less iteams go ahead of them in line.
The other day at the Family Dollar an older women did just that and a lady behind both of them started cussing up a storm. By the time both women were in the parking lot a fist fight insued. WTF!
What is wrong with people like that?
Wednesday, January 2
Bud The Brave
My son "Bud" is now a member of the Polar Bear Club!! Yes, on New Years Day he, his friend and his friends family went and jumped in the river!! The water temp. was 38 degrees F and the air temp. was 32 degrees F. He asked me if it was ok if he did this with his friend and family. I said that if he was brave enough then he had my blessing. He was brave enough and they made the noon news. Can't say that it would be something I would consider but hey my son is a brave one!
I'm real proud of his bravery!
I'm real proud of his bravery!
Monday, December 31
An afternoon to remember
I was brave the other afternoon, I took six kids ice skating, by myself.
Only two of the kids, my son and his friend, and myself had ever been ice skating. The three of us had each been one time! The boys did great! You would think that they had been much more than just once and they helped the girls, in a patient, kind manner. It was amazing, everything was in harmony. There was no fighting and everyone had a great time.
I didn't fall and I was able to help the littlest ones when they wanted it. Mostly though they were brave and wanted to do it on their own! By the end they hardly needed any help at all.
My youngest had been asking me for weeks to take her ice skating, I don't know where she came up with that idea, so I thought what the hay. My son and oldest daughter each brought a friend and we had the best afternoon ever.
Happy New Year!!!
Only two of the kids, my son and his friend, and myself had ever been ice skating. The three of us had each been one time! The boys did great! You would think that they had been much more than just once and they helped the girls, in a patient, kind manner. It was amazing, everything was in harmony. There was no fighting and everyone had a great time.
I didn't fall and I was able to help the littlest ones when they wanted it. Mostly though they were brave and wanted to do it on their own! By the end they hardly needed any help at all.
My youngest had been asking me for weeks to take her ice skating, I don't know where she came up with that idea, so I thought what the hay. My son and oldest daughter each brought a friend and we had the best afternoon ever.
Happy New Year!!!
Wednesday, December 26
Christmas
This year I got more meaningful gifts and it was the best!!
I'll start with the gift that my parents got me. They bought me a very soft blanket to curl up in when I am sick. The funny thing was is that I was sick when they gave it to me and have been curled up in it ever since.
My best friend gave me a candel holder with a candel inside. The holder is one leaf on top of another. She said that she is the top leaf and I am the bottom because I catch her when she falls.
I can't get that out of my head. It is the nicest thing that any of my friends have ever said to me.
My husband bought me a diamond ring, much larger than I have EVER had. He said that we didn't have much money when we got married and we are doing better, so he wanted to up grade. He also said that I have done so much for the family and for him, he just wanted to show mw how much he loved me. I cried and they have it on tape. POOPHEADS! LOL
This is a christmas that I will remember forever, not for the gifts that I got but for the people that I have.
I'll start with the gift that my parents got me. They bought me a very soft blanket to curl up in when I am sick. The funny thing was is that I was sick when they gave it to me and have been curled up in it ever since.
My best friend gave me a candel holder with a candel inside. The holder is one leaf on top of another. She said that she is the top leaf and I am the bottom because I catch her when she falls.
I can't get that out of my head. It is the nicest thing that any of my friends have ever said to me.
My husband bought me a diamond ring, much larger than I have EVER had. He said that we didn't have much money when we got married and we are doing better, so he wanted to up grade. He also said that I have done so much for the family and for him, he just wanted to show mw how much he loved me. I cried and they have it on tape. POOPHEADS! LOL
This is a christmas that I will remember forever, not for the gifts that I got but for the people that I have.
Wednesday, December 19
Gingerbreadmen, dogs and more...
I have never made my own gingerbread men from scratch before. I thought it would be fun if we did it this year. HA! Next time I think doing something from scratch is going to be fun talk me out of it. First I couldn't find all the stuff I needed, thank god my husband is more resourceful than I. Then I lost the receipe that I wanted to use. So I had to find a new one. There are so many DIFFERENT ones out there, I just picked one and ran with it. Now the Gingerbread is so dry that it is crumpling apart while I am trying to wrap it to put it in the fridge. Days later ( didn't have time to finish that night) still really dry. Add some water, a little sticky, add flour to the rolling pin, roll out and looks good ! Now we need to see how it tastes.
My dog has always been smart,however every thing I have ever heard about dogs is that they can not reason. My husband built a door so that the dog wouln't go in the basement to poop. He made it "doggie' proof so that the door had to pulled open instead of pushed. So my dog opened it with his teeth. He bit the top of this little door and used his paw to hold it open and then went down stairs to take a LARGE poop. HE is way to smart!!
My dog has always been smart,however every thing I have ever heard about dogs is that they can not reason. My husband built a door so that the dog wouln't go in the basement to poop. He made it "doggie' proof so that the door had to pulled open instead of pushed. So my dog opened it with his teeth. He bit the top of this little door and used his paw to hold it open and then went down stairs to take a LARGE poop. HE is way to smart!!
Sunday, December 16
CRAZY WEATHER
Yesterday it began to snow big flakes. It was so pretty... then it rained and all the pretty snow went away ( all in the same day). Today the snow is back and we are suppose to get a few inches oh goodie. To watch the kids yesterday sliding down the slope in the neighbors back yard brought back fond memories. I like the snow only around CHristmas and then it can go away for another year.
Around here things are getting so festive. Next week we will bake our cookies. This year we are going to try to make ginger bread men. I'm excited about that. We will do our usal giveing cut out cookies to the elderly neighbors and leaving some for some of our other neighbors. The kids really enjoy that part. AAHHHHH Christmas as long as you don't let the shopping and all get to you, this time of year is GREAT!
Around here things are getting so festive. Next week we will bake our cookies. This year we are going to try to make ginger bread men. I'm excited about that. We will do our usal giveing cut out cookies to the elderly neighbors and leaving some for some of our other neighbors. The kids really enjoy that part. AAHHHHH Christmas as long as you don't let the shopping and all get to you, this time of year is GREAT!
Tuesday, December 11
Just Yesterday
Wasn't just yesterday that my parents were getting us kids ready to go to my choir concert? It sure does seem that way. Tonight we are getting ready to go to my oldest daughters concert and for a change we are ahead of schedule. It was always cold and icy for my Christmas concerts, tonight it is just wet and muddy. My grandma always tried her best to come unless the weather was bad. That is one thing my kids miss out on is their grandparents coming. Not my parents fault, they try to make it when they have off and the weather is good. However, their one grandfather lives here and never goes to anything they have. Their other grandma has disconnected herself from the family so she is always a no show. I feel bad because we live far enough a way from my parents that they can't always make it. Well, no use in dwelling on it. I am going to record the concert for them instead.
Sunday, December 9
No real title
I'm glad my life is less hectic than my friends life is. She could truely have her own soap opera and have plenty of material. I'm telling you she could be rich, just by being her.
I'm really happy with the way my life turned out. My life used to be just as dramatic, everyday was a struggle to survive. When you are just living to survive then that is what you base all of your desicions on. Those desecions usally aren't the best, but it is all you can do at the time. I really feel for those trying to find their way. I guess that is why I helped create SuperMom. I know first hand that when you are sick/ on bed rest and have little kids with no one to help life really gets you down. I just want to give people resources to help them, help themselves. Getting well quickly will help epople do this faster and give them confidence that life doesn't suck so bad. Still working out the smaller details but in a few months we should be up and running!
I'm just concentrating hard on my next nursing job, I really have the jitters over this. TTFN.
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I'm really happy with the way my life turned out. My life used to be just as dramatic, everyday was a struggle to survive. When you are just living to survive then that is what you base all of your desicions on. Those desecions usally aren't the best, but it is all you can do at the time. I really feel for those trying to find their way. I guess that is why I helped create SuperMom. I know first hand that when you are sick/ on bed rest and have little kids with no one to help life really gets you down. I just want to give people resources to help them, help themselves. Getting well quickly will help epople do this faster and give them confidence that life doesn't suck so bad. Still working out the smaller details but in a few months we should be up and running!
I'm just concentrating hard on my next nursing job, I really have the jitters over this. TTFN.
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Friday, December 7
NERVOUS
When I graduated Nursing School I was terrified to work in a Nursing Home or a Hospital. There are so many people that you have to pass meds. too, you have to be on top of your game at all times. I am not always at top game and I am scared of loosing my license, that I just got.
Now I am taking the leap. I am going to work for agency so I will work in many different Nursing Homes ( it pays better and you get to pick your own hours). I know I am going to have to take it slow but , god, please don't let state come in until I get my bearings. PLEASE!!! I might just pass out if they do, out of shear terror! Wish me the best.
Now I am taking the leap. I am going to work for agency so I will work in many different Nursing Homes ( it pays better and you get to pick your own hours). I know I am going to have to take it slow but , god, please don't let state come in until I get my bearings. PLEASE!!! I might just pass out if they do, out of shear terror! Wish me the best.
Tuesday, December 4
No answers
I don't have the answers for today
I couldn't tell what the passing night will bring
Not sure what will come with the rise of the sun
Or the fall of the snow
I do know that I am here...
My ears open ,
my heart ready,
When you are...
I'll be here.
I couldn't tell what the passing night will bring
Not sure what will come with the rise of the sun
Or the fall of the snow
I do know that I am here...
My ears open ,
my heart ready,
When you are...
I'll be here.
Monday, December 3
Another Long Day
I accompanied a friend to the court house today and held her hand. I sat there all day with her and held my breath with her when the judge ruled. Things went pretty well for her legally, but emotionally she is wreck. I feel for her, there is not an easy answer. The man in her life won't help himself, which would make every one's life involved easier. No he would rather just keep telling her that she is the crazy one. Boy, that tune sounds familiar. Don't you wish you had a magic wand to help other peoples pain go away?
Back at the Homestead, you can tell my one child is almost a teenager, because she sure is starting to act like one. She thinks that I am telling on her when I inform her dad about her breaking the rules. I think I felt the same way as a kid. Wasn't good enough that one parent knew? I guess that it is our job to communicate with each other about what our kids are up to, especially since we live in the same house.
Back at the Homestead, you can tell my one child is almost a teenager, because she sure is starting to act like one. She thinks that I am telling on her when I inform her dad about her breaking the rules. I think I felt the same way as a kid. Wasn't good enough that one parent knew? I guess that it is our job to communicate with each other about what our kids are up to, especially since we live in the same house.
Wednesday, November 28
I quit
I quit my job. I don't want to go into too much detail, but I pretty much had to. So now I am quickly looking for a new one. In the time I am looking I will focus on my SuperMom business. Hopefully we can get the ball rolling soon. There is still much to do.
It is another busy wed. Basketball,swimteam,Dr's appt. all tonight. Luckily, my son has a ride to swim practice. Thank goodness for other kind parents. Oh, snap, I think it is my turn to take them, maybe I can pick them up instead.
I'm pretty down, I'd like to crawl in a hole. I guess that is one good thing about having a busy life, you don't have time to hide. Infact, I am thankful ( most of the time ) for being so busy. I don't have time to let things eat at me. Although, on the down side, I have less time to solve things also. Guess I'll have plenty of time for a while.
It is another busy wed. Basketball,swimteam,Dr's appt. all tonight. Luckily, my son has a ride to swim practice. Thank goodness for other kind parents. Oh, snap, I think it is my turn to take them, maybe I can pick them up instead.
I'm pretty down, I'd like to crawl in a hole. I guess that is one good thing about having a busy life, you don't have time to hide. Infact, I am thankful ( most of the time ) for being so busy. I don't have time to let things eat at me. Although, on the down side, I have less time to solve things also. Guess I'll have plenty of time for a while.
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